You can't stop evolution Read time: 2.5 minutes When I began writing consistently online, I didn't know what I was doing. But I knew what I cared about. Leading teams and people came naturally to me, but that same energy didn't translate in my own house. No matter how hard I tried, I couldn't figure out where I was going wrong. What was I missing? I was responsible for multimillion dollar projects for multibillion-dollar entities. Why couldn't I figure this out? I wracked my brain, had many...
about 1 month ago • 1 min read
Why AI won't save your marriage (but this will) Read on my website | Read time: 4 minutes Last Tuesday, a friend showed me the ChatGPT apology he'd sent his wife. The prompt was detailed. The response was eloquent. The delivery was flawless. The result? She asked him to sleep on the couch. "I don't understand," he said. "It covered everything. It was perfectly worded. I even had it add emotional language." Here's what he missed: His wife didn't need better words. She needed him to show up....
about 1 month ago • 4 min read
The voice in your head is breaking trust Read on my website | Read time: 3 minutes The shame spiral almost cost me everything. Not the loud, obvious shame. The quiet kind. The kind that whispers: “You always mess this up.” “They’re going to see you’re not enough.” “Say less, before you make it worse.” It showed up in the mirror. In meetings. In my marriage. I didn't lose publicly.I just started playing smaller. Withdrew when things got tense.Said “it’s fine” when it wasn’t. All the while,...
about 2 months ago • 3 min read
Intention vs. Attention Read on my website | Read time: 4 minutes I had a conversation last week with the author of Prioritize Us, Nick Brancato, that’s been sitting with me ever since. Nick’s a coach who works with couples on strengthening their relationships through something deceptively simple: aligned priorities. Not aligned values. Aligned priorities. Here’s why that matters: Most people think they’re struggling because they’re not on the same page about what they believe. But that’s...
about 2 months ago • 3 min read
Why did it blow up? Read on my website | Read time: 2.5 minutes Last Thursday night, a client texted me: “I literally said nothing wrong. But my wife still got defensive. I don’t get it.” He’s not clueless. He’s kind, self-aware, and working hard to change old patterns. But here’s what I’ve learned after coaching hundreds of men: You can say all the right words, and still set off alarms—because of your tone. And once that alarm goes off? It doesn’t matter how logical, calm, or...
2 months ago • 2 min read
The kind of strength that speaks Read on my website | Read time: 3 minutes I wasn’t prepared for what happened in this interview. I’m usually calm and collected when I host these conversations. Curious, grounded, clear. But this one hit me harder than I expected. Jason Tuttle came on Dads Interrupted to talk about his son, Zachary—who lived with a rare condition and passed away far too young—and what unfolded was a masterclass in emotional presence, fatherhood, and a kind of strength that...
3 months ago • 4 min read
You're not being heard—but here's the twist Read on my website | Read time: 2.5 minutes Ever had a conversation that felt like you hit a brick wall? One of you brings something up—maybe something small, maybe something big— maybe it's feeling overwhelmed, or needing help with the kids. And before you know it, it’s an argument.You’re defending yourself.They’re upset.And somehow, you feel like the bad guy—again. You walk away thinking: “It's always my fault.”“I can’t say anything without it...
3 months ago • 2 min read
The invisible contract men keep signing Read on my website | Read time: 3 minutes We’re all living under a contract we never actually signed. At some point—maybe when we were young, maybe without even knowing it—we agreed to a silent set of terms: “I’ll hold it all together. I won’t complain. And eventually, someone will notice how much I’ve done.” But here’s the thing: It’s not working. Because no one can appreciate what they don’t see. No one asked you to white-knuckle your way through. And...
3 months ago • 3 min read
This is why you’re exhausted (and it's not just work) Read on my website | Read time: 2.5 minutes A few nights ago, I caught myself doing something ridiculous. I was lying in bed, running through tomorrow’s checklist like I was preparing for a combat mission: Work deadlines. School drop-offs. Groceries. The kid’s science project. That thing my wife asked me to follow up on but I hadn’t touched yet. Then I caught myself. I was “pre-solving” problems that didn’t even exist. My nervous system...
3 months ago • 3 min read